I woke up to a news alert on my phone that Glenn Frey had died the day before. I didn’t know he was sick. Then how would I know that? I don’t have a personal relationship with Glenn Frey…but I feel like I do.
I grew up listening to the Eagles. The lyrics of their music are a backdrop for my entire life. My mom loved them, she played them all the time. I remember the Hell Freezes Over Tour. It was epic, that one of the best bands ever was putting aside their personal differences and coming together to grace the world, once again, with their gifts and talents. Perhaps they had grown, matured, forgiven each other? I don’t know exactly, but that was my narrative anyway.
The Eagles will never tour again.
He was only 67, that’s younger than my parents (just a little:)
We lost another music legend this week as well, David Bowie. Isn’t it strange when someone famous dies and it really affects you?
When asking myself, Did I know these men? The technical answer is no, but an emotionally accurate answer is yes.
Their life had a great impact on mine in some way.
Unresolved grief is about undelivered communications of an emotional nature. The death of someone we admire from afar can provoke all kinds of conflicting emotions.
Russel Friedman from the Grief Recovery Method said it best when he shared, “The deaths of public figures generate tremendous understandable emotions in those who loved them. It’s normal and natural that many people will feel robbed of meeting and communicating their respect, admiration, and affection. When death ends the physical aspect of a relationship, there are inevitably unrealized hopes, dreams, and expectations about the future. This is clearly true about the people who have been a direct part of our lives. But it also affects us when someone famous dies.”
By understanding that unresolved grief is about undelivered communications of an emotional nature, the most helpful thing to do to help the process or journey of grief, is to communicate those feelings.
One of the tools we teach is to write a completion letter, expressing how you felt about the person. How they touched you. Expressing emotional communications is the most powerful thing you can do to complete feelings of loss and actually grieve.
Learn more about the tools of surviving loss and discover how to truly grieve by checking out The Grief Recovery Method. That is what we do and what we teach at Freedom From Grief.
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